What is the best advice you have ever received and how did you use it?

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My best advice was from my father who said: “There are only 2 things you cannot undo – once you have a baby, you have a baby and if you kill yourself, you are dead. On everything else you can change your mind, so carte blanche! Go forth and do what you need to do.”

His words have given me the courage to take risks – such as investing my time and money in new ventures such as libretta.com. And this has helped me change my mind when a new strategy was needed, such as when I had to get out of my marriage.

It would be great to share the best advice you have gotten. It will enrich all our lives. Just post it in a comment right here on my blog: www.theshelleblog.com or on my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/shelle.rose.charvet


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“My mother always said “make your hobby your career”. As a kid I always had hobbies including all kinds of crafts. By the age of 13, I started collecting antiques and visiting historic house museums. Today, at age 54, I am Senior Curator of Dundurn National Historic Site and love every minute of my work. As well, every aspect of my life complements my work. There was never any doubt in my mind where I wanted to go in my career.”

Kenneth J. Heaman M.M. St.
Senior Curator,
Dundurn National Historic Site

12 thoughts on “What is the best advice you have ever received and how did you use it?

  1. Rochelle

    The best advise I ever received was from a retired Army Special Forces Colonel pulled out of retirement to head a group in Djibouti, Africa. He said if you leave a job because of the peers you are complaining about, those peers will then fill your position to lead your Soldiers. Go figure. I served 5 more years, and 5 more deployments in the Army before I could rationalize leaving my position! Good leaders make every person around them better.

  2. Judy Pearson

    As an author, I’m always on the lookout for good advice on writing and publishing. The best advice I’ve received is “don’t use three words where you can use one.” I’m sure many people have said this, but I read in Stephen King’s book: On Writing.

  3. Michael Stanleigh

    Focus on what you have done, accomplished and achieved – not what you haven’t. All of our decisions were made based on the knowledge we had at that moment in time. This is no value in reflecting back and wondering “what if”. Rather, focus on what will be. Once our decisions are made, they are made. They cannot be changed. Our future path is where our opportunities lie. Focus your energies there and your life will be much happier and fulfilled.

  4. Lillian Lambert

    One of the best bits of advice I received was at the early stage of development of my business my financial planner advised me to set up some investments outside of my business. . I followed his advice and this provided additional retirement funds when I did not get as much from the sale of the business as I expected. I could still retire in comfort or use the funds to finance my second career.

  5. Cath

    The best piece of advice I ever got was when I was doing my NLP training. It was that “you can always choose how you want to feel about something- you are driving the bus!” This was a big revelation for me because I’d always been someone who let their emotions get the better of them but hearing this really changed my life.

  6. Mojca

    I once complained to a friend who was probably about 40 years older than me that all good things pass. She replied that all bad things pass, too. It startled me, made me laugh, and opened my eyes.

  7. Julia Alexander

    My husband, the author Louis (L. G.) Alexander, was vulnerable, as we all are, open to anger and disappointment, as we all are. He was unusual because he accepted and recognized these powerful currents, but he chose to set negative emotions aside in his dealings with other people. Perhaps he could do that because he was busy and idealistic about his real work, and he mapped that idealism across to his relations with other people (though when he was struggling a bit, he used to chant ‘Accentuate the positive; ignore the negative!’ until his happy interest in his work took over again!) He once told me that his life-work as an author of language text-books was a perpetual search for ‘the answer to the question’ – so he was uncompromising as an academic author, and he never wrote any work twice, even though his publishers would have liked him to do so. In life, his guiding principle was, ‘Always do the right thing at the right time.’ I’ve had to make all sorts of decisions – big and small – in the ten years since Louis died; but whenever I’m uncertain about what to do, I find the thing is to sort out what’s right, and then to just do it, at the right time. I see him now in my mind’s eye, saying with rare intensity, ‘The only thing that matters is always to do the right thing at the right time.’ I believe that too.

  8. Michael Whitcroft

    The best advice I ever received was ‘never let the sun go down on your anger’. In other words always resolve serious issues with your partner before you both go to sleep at night! Otherwise it can be worse for both of you in the morning!!

  9. Paul du Toit

    My advice to both my daughters has been that there are 2 things that you should keep intact, and defend at all costs. The one is your reputation, the other is your credit rating. It’s not much fun going through life with either of these in tatters.

  10. Tineke Bosma

    The best advice I had from my father was at times when I was scared to ask something or approach someone as they might say NO and he used to say: ‘You already have NO, now go out and get a YES!’ I still use it if not for myself I use it with my coaching clients.

  11. Armand

    my moment of truth was when I discovered :feelings will not kill me.”No matter the kind or the intensity of the feeling, I will survive, and be able to work with it

  12. Kim Thompson

    Best advice was “never die wondering”. Resulted in me taking a good long hard look at my career, goals, satisfaction with my marriage (or lack thereof), children well being. Result divorce )yipeeee), career has soared in the Australian Aboriginal Health Sector and Accreditation industry, beautiful happy and safe daughters!!!


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