Have you ever noticed that some people keep on succeeding
while others have great ideas
but nothing happens with them in the end?
Do you know people who SAY they will do something
and then put it off repeatedly?
Do YOU do this?
But do you know what that seemingly small decision reveals about you?
Firstly, it tells others that you are not trustworthy
and cannot be counted on.
It also indicates that you are
unlikely to succeed at the activities
that you SAY you want,
because you tend not to focus
on what is important; only on the urgent things.
This may be harsh, but if it describes one of your habits –
at least now you know the consequences,
both in relationships and in achieving your goals.
It can be an easy decision to put off doing something
– everyone is busy –
and just do the things that are SHOUTING at you.
Say-Do Principle: But if you want to have long term credibility
with others, apply the Say-Do Principle.
Only say you will do something if you ARE going to do it,
WHEN you said you would.
Hold your breath and
count to 10 before spouting any ill thought sentences
that others will take as a commitment on your part.
Make this a rule that you follow.
If you have to miss a deadline, communicate a new deadline
as soon as possible. This will earn you much respect and trust
from everyone you care about.
One of the most important gifts you can give yourself
if you want to be successful, is to identify where to place your attention. Often people get lost in the detail when trying to make a decision and lose sight of the larger stakes.
Recently someone I know was stuck
about deciding whether to take a job that would mean
a move to a region where she wanted to live,
because her husband had not yet found a job in this region.
She was bogged down in the logistical details,
forgetting that they had decided as a couple that the
big goal was to live in the new region.
When she and her husband zoomed out to the big picture,
and their overall goal, her next steps were obvious.
Take the job!
Interestingly when she kept her commitment to their goal,
her husband was offered a job almost immediately after she said yes.
When people are focused on options, alternatives and possibilities, they have struggles completing commitments.
We call this the Options Pattern from the
Language and Behavior Profile (LAB Profile).
These folks tend to be very creative but often
do not follow through on what they say they are going to do.
If someone has a preference for a step by process when they do things,
what we call a Procedures Pattern,
they are more likely to follow through with their commitments.
In fact, when you hear Procedure language,
such as “the next step, then, after that, process,
how to get to the end goal”, etc.,
it may actually indicate that the person IS committed to doing what they said they would do.
To improve your ability to follow through
and actually do what you committed to doing,
get yourself into a more Procedures mode.
An easy way to do this is to schedule WHEN
you will do the steps needed to fulfill your commitment
right in your calendar.
And be a slave to your calendar.
Ok, not really a slave as such — but use your calendar
to guide your actual work activities,
and not only your appointments with others.
If you still suck at doing what you said you were going to do;
hire someone and give them the task. I do this in my work
by hiring freelancers on www.elance.com to do
many of the tasks I don’t have time for.
Obviously, if your commitment was about making time for looooove with your partner, delegating this task may lead to some undesired consequences. lol
The Power of Commitment
When you only SAY the things you will actually DO,
suddenly you have a super power!
Others trust you and treat you with respect.
You get the things you want from life because you
made the commitment to do what is needed, when you said you would.
A simple commitment: Say-Do, and achieve whatever you want!